These days when it has become so easy to be two-faced and play well with those two faces, it has become difficult to recognize someone’s true character or personality, and many times it’s already too late.
Keeping this in mind, we will help you deal with this problem and tell you some ways to recognize someone’s true character.
What is a Person’s Character?
A person’s character is something that can describe the whole vibe and the aura of that person. There is no definition to explain a person’s character. A character consists of a wide range of traits. Character is consistent and permanent, and it cannot be changed depending on the situation.
A person’s character distinguishes one person from another. A person is known for their character. For example, tolerance is one of the qualities of the overall character of a person, so we can say that a person is tolerant, and that is a part of his personality. This is basically what character is. It is an aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of a person.
Ways to Know Someone’s True Character
We can easily get deceived by someone’s first appearance or public appearance because usually, a person keeps themselves in a controlled manner on the first meet or in a public place, which always appears good. It’s only later that we slowly get to know the real character of the person – whether it’s good or bad.
Below are 29 ways in which a person’s true character can be recognized:
#1. Modesty – This is something that can be firstly judged in a person. Modesty is when a person keeps himself within limits, he is not too out there, is not attention hungry by doing weird things. If a person is subtle, he is modest and is of good character. We can find modesty in their way of speaking, dressing, etc.
#2. Are they reliable? – We know a person is of good character they are reliable. One can count on them when things are not in favor or in any adverse situation. If he backs out, then we know that we cannot depend on such a person. A person can be so well with you when everything’s fine, but if he remains the same even in the darkest time, that’s when he is reliable.
#3. Capable of taking the blame – When a person is courageous and honest enough to accept his fault and take up the blame, he is of a good character. A good person owns up his stuff instead of starting the blame game and throwing the blame upon someone else.
#4. Honesty – It may seem a bit cliché, but when a person is honest about things, he is good. Whatever and how so ever that thing be, a good person is always honest. He doesn’t keep another person in the dark and speaks the truth.
#5. Do they discuss other people? – If someone gossips about other people and here gossip refers to negative talk, he surely does gossip about you when you are not present. Such persons cannot be trusted.
#6. Boasting – We all know someone who just cannot stay grounded and keeps on boasting about himself and no one likes such kind of person. They are a true attention seeker.
#7. Makes you feel inferior – This is an extension of the previous point. When a person brags too much, he, in some way, wants you to feel inferior about yourself, he wants you to get under-confident about yourself and doubt upon yourself. Such people can be so negative and are not at all of the good character.
#8. A person of good quality will give out confidence wherever they go – They are sure about themselves, and they do not need someone else’s approval. This in no way means that they are not modest, they are just pretty confident in a positive way.
#9. Tolerance level – This is a major aspect. Tolerance is the capability of accepting other’s cultures, views, and thoughts. It is inevitable that no two people can have exact same thoughts on everything, clashes have to be there, but how a person accepts that contradiction defines their personality.
#10. Domineering – If a person gets arrogant a lot, or is really short-tempered, then he is someone to keep a distance with.
#11. Thinks before they speak – When a person just speaks out their mind, not thinking about the feelings and emotions of the other person, you don’t want to be around that person. This is not to be confused with honesty, a person should be honest keeping in mind their words and feelings of others, there is a way, to be honest.
#12. Are they kind? – Kindness makes humanity. Observe how that person behaves with waiters, staff, old people, kids, and animals. This tells a lot about someone’s character.
#13. Use of language – A lot can be said about a person’s character or true character by observing their use of language, whether the person uses foul language or modest and classy tone, we know which one is of good character.
#14. Perseverance – As a human, it’s inevitable that someday or the other, we have to face failures and not just one but an uncountable number of failures. Still, it is the perseverance of a person that can determine his true character, his passion for reaching the goals despite failures gives a positive aura.
#15. Sense of humor – We all have that friend or such a person known that brightens up every occasion with their sense of humor and we want to be around such a person because they just lighten up the whole situation and things do not seem as heavy as they did before.
#16. Respect – When a person gives respect, he receives it back. And it is as simple as that. A good character is giving respect without even keeping in mind the reciprocation.
#17. Conduct towards the family – If a person is well-behaved and respects and loves his family, then he knows the value of relationships and such people are good people.
#18. They have long term relationships – Toxic people cannot retain a person because they release negative energy and so they also have short-termed relationships, be it with lovers or friends.
#19. Patience level – This is one of the major factors to check for a good character. A person who is patient and calm is a person to look forward to.
#20. The reaction of the person – when he gets a chance to do something which might be immoral or unreasonable. Does he do that work without any hesitation or does he question the grounds and stand against, his reaction decides his trait.
#21. Quality of forgiveness – People of bad character tends to hold grudges and are always in seek of forgiveness. But other people know the art of forgiveness but they never forget and take it as a sign.
#22. They can say NO – A person of good character also has the ability to say no when they cannot do something. This is not rudeness but honesty.
#23. Hard-working – Apart from hard workers they are also smart workers. This shows their dedication and passion for what they do. This is a sign that the person takes things seriously and does not have a too-casual approach.
#24. Do they support you? – When while talking to a person, you feel that the person is dragging you down from your goal, or in some way, you do not feel supportive; then, it’s a negative trait.
#25. Nagging – If a person has a habit of nagging and they nag and complain about everything that he has or does not have, complain about his work, his friends, his partner, boss, or overall life, you will automatically start feeling repelled from that person. This is not a sign of a good character. It surely shows that that person is hopeless and does not have a positive approach.
#26. Do they carry themselves well? – Grooming is an important part of anyone’s character. A well-groomed person shows confidence, he has a different kind of aura, in a positive way of course. If a person takes care of himself, this reflects that that person has a sense of responsibility.
#27. Self-obsession – In other words, they are called narcissists. They do not care about another person, all they care about is themselves. One can notice this trait in simple occasions as well, for example, while ordering food, they will not even bother to ask you if you need something.
#28. Jealousy – You know a person is not good if he gets jealous. Being envious or jealous is human nature and no one can stop being it but things go bad when this jealousy becomes so major that the person can even do anything adverse to the other person. Limited jealousy is good for a healthy competition.
#29. Stands up for the right – There’s a saying that a person who doesn’t stand for the right is the wrong person. If you observe him standing fire the right, speaking for the suppressed, etc. he has a good vibe, a good aura, and overall a good character.
These traits to know someone’s true character should not be observed on an individual basis because mere one or few characteristics cannot decide a person’s character. Character is an aggregate of such traits. Humans are not infallible and cannot be perfect, but they shouldn’t be toxic, and if you feel negative energy around a person, it’s time you distant yourself from that person.