He’s such a chauvinistic guy – the phrase we’ve heard at least once in life from a woman. If you don’t know what it means, let me tell you – a male who thinks women are innately inferior to them is called a male chauvinist or sexist.
Male chauvinists think their sex is most superior, and they think of women as their private property or slaves.
In this post, we’ll talk about the noticeable signs of a male chauvinist and how you can deal with them.
He’s the one who has the upper hand in almost everything
He’d make all the decisions himself and wouldn’t care to include you. He’ll take the lead everywhere and wouldn’t let you have your own opinion. Indirectly, he labels you as someone stupid who knows nothing.
What to do about it? Recognize that your perpetrator’s behavior has little to do with you and more with their underlying psychological issues. Create a little emotional distance between you and him – detach from any perceived threats or dangers as a coping mechanism
He never understands your emotions, and to him, his ego comes first
You might be crying since the last night because of his behavior, but he hardly bothers. Maybe he’s emotional, but he would not show it up just for it will mean he is weak.
What to do about it? The more you stay calm about it, the more he’ll undervalue you. Communication is the key here. Remind his mistake and tell him straight up (with empathy) that he needs to admit when he’s wrong – without arguing – and acknowledge your feedback.
He always dominates you
You can’t do anything without his consent, even when it’s a petty thing. He tries to control you with everything. If you’re married, he’d expect you to please his mother and sister every time, even when it’s not really required.
What to do about it? To start off, let him know politely that you feel resentment after conforming to what he wants, and he should let you do things out of love and respect for our relationship. Tell him that you don’t like being controlled, and he should respect your decisions and desires.
He always stops you from doing your ‘thing,’ especially when it’s something big
Secretly he’s afraid that you’ll reach higher and gain more success and popularity than him. You’ll notice that he’ll always find a way to stop you from achieving your dreams. Your career and goals would be the reason for frequent fights. In that case, he’s the one competing with you in every aspect of life.
What to do about it? Stop showering him with too many compliments, as it can inflate his ego. Remind him that you two are supposed to complement each other without the need to compete. Be clear about your aspirations and do your thing, regardless. Period.
You would always find him talking bad and degrading women
Whether it’s a lady from his workplace who got a promotion or from his college, he’d always criticize her or any other woman. He may even use derogatory words for them. Such a man can’t handle other women’s success, and their success hurts him straight into his heart. Male chauvinists are a pain to society and, obviously, you.
What to do about it? You can say: “Hmm, it’s interesting you call her ‘xxxx.’ I don’t hear men with firm opinions call that. Have you ever thought about that?”. Alternatively, you can ask them what they would have said if it was a man – would they even comment at all?
He sees women as ‘objects’
And so will he think about you. He won’t respect you. To him, women are mere objects they can satisfy their sexual cravings with and nothing more than that. That’s the reason he’s attracted to you, and you’re like a showpiece that is shown off in front of his friends. But I bet they won’t see their mother or sister like that!
What to do about it? Ignore when he makes a degrading comment on other women to you. When it gets too much, tell him objectifying women won’t help him or the relationship in any way.
He would never do any Household Chore. Or Cooking.
Let alone cooking – he won’t even help you in your daily chores. He simply thinks it’s your job to do chores and cook for him. He’d order food from outside but won’t bother to cook a thing. This patriarchal thinking of him is way too terrible.
What to do about it? Remind him that he is a partner for a reason, and he needs to do his part when it comes to chores, especially the household ones. Say, “the work around here is too much for me. Would you please take over doing the dishes? I’d really appreciate it.” Stand your ground until he realizes his responsibility.
He’s highly impolite
He won’t open car and restaurant doors for you. Not even pull a chair for you to sit first. He would do nothing when a guy tries to hit on you. In short, he would lack all that chivalry you desire from him.
What to do about it? First of all, give him the benefit of the doubt – maybe he doesn’t know how to behave with a partner, and this behavior results from his family dynamics. It can also happen out of lack of communication – are you open to him about your expectations? If he selectively behaves with you impolitely, give him the taste of his medicine and let him know if he doesn’t stop being this way, he won’t get that treatment either.
So ladies, did you find any given characteristics relatable to your man? If yes, it’s time you rethink your relationship with him.